I emailed you a few weeks (possibly months, I can't remember exactly) ago about names for our little girl that is due in October. When I emailed before, I wanted some name suggestions. Now, however, we have a different problem.
My husband and I spent hours reading/highlighting The Baby Name Wizard, but we did it seperately. We tend to have very different tastes in names, so we each made our own list. From those lists, we narrowed the names down to only the ones we had in common. (Of course, my favorite name, Eliza, isn't anywhere on his list. *sigh*)
Here are the names:
My problem is two fold:
1. Our other children's names are Olivia, Austin, and Isaac. Would it be weird to go with a name that doesn't start with a vowel for our last child?
2. If we were to stay with a vowel name, we would probably go with Amelia right now. However, my cousin (who does live far away, and I only see about once every 3 years.) just named her baby girl Emmelia. Are these too similar? Would it be "stealing" her name?
Any thoughts? Suggestions? Our last name is similar to Abbey, and with several of the names, we'd probably use Claire as a middle name.
I am certain that we've had the vowel-name question before, and that we did a poll and most people said they wouldn't notice a vowel-name pattern unless it was pointed out to them. But can I find this poll in my archives? No. So either I'm imagining it, or I'm not using the right search terms, and in any case let's have a fresh poll over to the right. It's not something I would notice myself (though I might now that it's come up a few times in questions here), and if I did notice it, I would think it was kind of a fun thing to notice, but I wouldn't think it was weird to break it. With five different starting letters included, it's a much "softer" pattern than, say, every name starting with the same letter. Madison, Mackenzie, Makayla, and Abigail would catch my attention; Olivia, Austin, Isaac, and Lucy would not.
Let's have a second poll for whether Amelia is too close to Emmelia. For me it depends in part on whether Emmelia is pronounced the same as Amelia or not. If it's more like Emma-Leah, and/or they call her Emmie, then I don't see a problem: different pronunciations, different spellings, different names. If Emmelia is pronounced the same as Amelia, I STILL think it's okay: you've mentioned you don't see her often, and even if you did I think it's fine for second cousins to share a name. If you spelled it her same unusual way I could see how she'd see it as copying her, but I suspect your cousin would consider Emmelia a totally different name than Amelia. But I'd be a little nervous too, if I were you---people can have such strong feelings about "stealing" names. I'd go ahead and use it, but I'd fret a little, and I might even email the cousin to feel things out ahead of time (but only if I were willing to drop the name if she freaked out about it).
Both polls are over to the right! [Polls closed; see results below.]
Name update! Tracy writes:
Our little girl has arrived!
Eliza Claire was born October 18th, 2011. For a while, we had decided her name would be Ammelia, per advice of your readers that it wasn't too close. However, I just really felt like it wasn't "our name" anymore. Not that I aspire to be "original", but it felt like I wasn't creative enough to come up with another name. I finally convinced my husband, after countless repetitions of calling the baby by the name, to name her Eliza. Oddly enough, her middle name, which we were both pretty certain on before she was born, was not decided until right before we left the hospital. Second guessing ourselves.
Anyway, here's the picture. Thanks so much for the help!